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Family
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Kids and Teens
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Written by April Gilford
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Tuesday, 03 June 2008 00:05 |
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Do you have tweens begging to get on the internet? Most likely they are clamoring to be able to instant message friends, visit chat rooms, talk on message boards, and follow all their classmates who fall in the "but her mom lets her do it!" category. However, the horror stories that surface from MySpace, Facebook, and other major online social networks are enough to make many parents say, "No way!" There are ways to give in to your tween without worrying if her online friend is a 45-year-old man in a dingy T-shirt and boxers with a beer in his hand. Many services are now available that let you set up your own private message boards and chat rooms. Depending on your level of expertise, these sites range from ones in which you just answer a few simple questions and they design it all for you to freeware that you can load on your hosting server. The advantages of these services are that you have complete control over who gets in and who can post to the site while letting your older child or younger teen interact on the internet and begin learning the necessary skills. Even with the inherent dangers of the online environment, more and more schools from elementary to college now assume that your child knows how to perform basic functions using the web including researching a topic, sending e-mails, accessing sites, and even uploading files and photos. Message boards and chat rooms help them learn all those things, as well as the obvious typing skills and social benefits. FREE SERVICES: Many free message and bulletin board services exist with which you can set up and control your own online social site. iPBFree, Form for Free, Hyperboards, and Chatzy are just a few of the free services available. These sites make it simple to set up your board and do not require you to know any sort of coding or scripting. Many of them offer extras such as private messaging, arcade games, shoutboxes (similar to chatting) and calendars for posting events. The advantages to using these free bulletin board services are obvious: ease of use, quick to set up, and no design knowledge necessary. Things to watch out for: When using a free service, be sure to carefully read the Terms of Service and Privacy Policy documents. Many, though not all, of these sites will display various revenue-producing advertisements on the message boards. These ads may or not be family-friendly. Make sure you have complete control over the privacy of the site. You should be able to set the board permissions so that only people who receive an invitation, or are approved by the moderator (you) can access the site. Otherwise, anyone online will be able to view and possibly post to the bulletin board or chat room. You may also want to find out if the service offers a profanity filter. Even if you make sure only your child's friends are on the site, a profanity filter will prevent them from being able to post offensive language.
HOST YOUR OWN WITH OPEN SOURCE SOFTWARE: Your parental peace of mind may be better served by getting your own hosting account and installing the board yourself. Though you do not need a degree in computers to do this, you should have a least a passing acquaintance with terms such as domain registration, server, FTP, html/xhtml, php, css, and core extensions/modifications. If you have visited the Christian Advice Site's Advice Forum, then you have seen one of these services in action. For a small monthly fee (this site is hosted on Freespiritwebsites.com, deluxe Linux hosting), you register your own domain name and upload the site yourself. While the main website for CAS is powered by Joomla!, the Advice Forum is powered by Simple Machines Forum (SMF). The SMF core package is free and so are many of the extra modules that can be installed. I actually have two SMF forums loaded on my hosting account, but the other one is a restricted invitation-only site with chat room for a group of online friends. The advantages are obvious: I have complete control over the security, function, look and access of the site. Other free open source bulletin board and chat room software providers include Vanilla Forum, phpBB, Web Wiz Forums, and Yet Another Bulletin Board (yaBB). Things to watch out for: Shop around for the best hosting package for your money. While my package is only $8.95 a month, the bandwidth and extras are way more than is needed for a simple message board for your tweens and their friends. You may be able to find a simpler, cheaper host that will serve your needs. Also ensure that the databases, etc. used by the host provider are compatible with the open source product you want to use. When purchasing your domain, pay the extra cash upfront for private registration. Otherwise, your name, address and telephone number will show up on WHOIS if anyone decided to search for who owns the site. Also, keep in mind that if something does not work right or goes wrong with the board, you will be the one to fix it or pay a programmer to fix it for you. Most providers like SMF have excellent community support where experienced users are more than willing to help out the "noobs." Still, if you lack the basic knowledge to understand their instructions, they can't be much help. So far I have experienced no problems I couldn't fix myself with the help of a support forum, but that doesn't mean I haven't wanted to kick the computer a couple of times in the process!
With any service you decide to investigate, it will be beneficial to either set up a test site or use one provided by that service. You will be able to tell pretty quickly how easy it will be to use, and how easy it will be for your tweens and friends to use. The extra work in the beginning is small price to pay for making sure your children can enjoy socializing online in a safe environment which you control. Now you can be the "cool" parent, too! Click to join the Christian Advice Forum! Get a free Father's Day grapic from the Christian Advice Site!
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Last Updated ( Tuesday, 03 June 2008 22:32 )
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Kids and Teens
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Written by April Gilford
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Sunday, 18 May 2008 21:11 |
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Christian video games, or even family-friendly games, can be difficult to find. While some Christian companies have made an effort to push into the billion dollar gaming industry, lack of funding often inhibits competition within the market against competitors making millions off of releases such as Grand Theft Auto. You do have choices, though, if you buy games online rather than looking in retail stores. With summertime and the end of the school year quickly approaching, it is time to start planning activities and things to keep your children and teens busy. On rainy days when you can't send the kids outside, get them playing games you actually approve of. Guiding Light Video has a large selection of computer games for all ages. Here are just a few of them available for prices at or below other video and computer games -- |
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Last Updated ( Sunday, 18 May 2008 22:10 )
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Travel
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Written by April Gilford
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Saturday, 10 May 2008 09:48 |
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Take a vacation with your faith, not from it! If Vegas, Atlantic City, or a beach full of scantily clad alcoholics doesn't sound like the kind of fun you want for your family, try a visit to a monastery. Camp Mahpiyato near the beautiful Blue Cloud Abbey in South Dakota is the perfect setting for an individual wanting a spiritual retreat, a family seeking that ever-elusive quality time together, or your church group retreat.
The camp grounds of Mahpiyato offer fishing, hiking, swimming, outdoor and indoor sports. The Abbey also invites visitors to join them in their times of prayer. Pitch your tent on the grounds, or stay in the dormitory facilities complete with full kitchen and indoor dining. The average summer temperatures in South Dakota range in the mid-70's, perfect for outdoor activities. Blue Cloud Abbey is surrounded by the beauty of the South Dakota countryside. This Benedictine Monastery was started in 1950 as a place for the monks who had been working with the Native Americans in the area. "In the midst of this quiet and private setting, the monks of Blue Cloud Abbey have constructed a campsite, a place of retreat, a sacred space where the crowning of God's creation, His people, might pause from the business of life for reflection, refreshment, renewal and recreation." The book The View from a Monastery by Brother Benet Tvedten is where I first learned of Blue Cloud Abbey. The book is a behind-the-scenes and often humorous look at modern monastic life. From bus trips to the drive-in movie to a heart-warming look at the final days of a beloved fellow monk, Brother Tvedten brings to life the beauty of Blue Cloud Abbey and its monastic brotherhood. If you have never had a desire to visit a monastery before, you will after reading "The View from a Monastery."
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Last Updated ( Saturday, 10 May 2008 10:59 )
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Travel
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Written by April Gilford
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Wednesday, 07 May 2008 07:51 |
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A Christian Advice Site special review from Jean Lockwood If you are looking for something to do with your family this summer; something that includes Christian fellowship, fun for all ages, and many choices of entertainment that will encourage your growth in the Lord; Kingdom Bound Festival may be what you are looking for. Kingdom Bound is held in western New York at Darien Lake Theme Park, between Rochester and Buffalo. For directions visit www.godarienlake.com/directions.php. This is the 22nd year for Kingdom Bound and the dates this year are August 3-6, 2008. Featured at this year's festival will be musical artists such as Newsboys, Third Day, Delirious, Skillet, Jaci Velasquez, Salvador; worship leaders Robin Mark, Relevant Worship, Paul Baloche, and Lenny Leblanc; and communicators Reggie Dabbs, Jeri Barricks, and Family Counselor Kevin Leman -- as well as many more contemporary Christian artisits, worship leaders, and speakers. There will be special things going on each day. The extreme skating and biking ministry called Enemy Opposition will be performing daily in the park. There will be new artists introduced, as well as all of the ones you know and love. On Tuesday night, Jaci Velasquez will sing with her husband Nick from the group Salvador. Enjoying a time of worship in the morning is made easier by the option of having your kids ministered to in the Children's Tent where they will have worship, see skits and puppet shows, play games, win prizes, and have an all out good time, while you join in the corporate worship with other adults and families. There are options of what to do all day long, with the Performing Arts Center, Park Stage, and Worship Tent each offering concerts, seminars, and worship times. At the end of the day the Laser Light Show offered by Darien Lake is a fun time for all, and then maybe enjoying a campfire with the family and some friends will make a wonderful memory that will last a lifetime. When you purchase tickets to attend Kingdom Bound, included in the package is the Darien Lake Theme Park rides and entertainment. According to Lisa Leone, Accommodations Director for Kingdom Bound, there are still accommodations available for this year's Kingdom Bound on ground at Darien Lake. The camping sites, RV rentals, and Motel have the advantage of keeping you close to all that's available to do and see. Kingdom Bound tickets are available for either a day or two, or for the entire event. For more information about the Kingdom Bound Festival and to learn how to reserve a trip to Kingdom Bound for your family please visit www.kingdombound.org. Kingdom Bound Festival is the experience of a lifetime. Enjoying it with the whole family can make it even better. Jean Lockwood is a freelance writer in upstate NY, where she lives in the beautiful Mohawk Valley with her husband Dan and six of their seven children. The Lockwood family has attended Kingdom Bound Festival each year for 20 years. Visit Jean at www.parentingandreligion.com.
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Last Updated ( Wednesday, 07 May 2008 08:20 )
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Marriage
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Written by April Gilford
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Thursday, 01 May 2008 08:46 |
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Kudos to Wheaton College professor Kent Gramm! Divorce after 30 years of marriage is always saddening to hear about. It is not the divorce that gets kudos, but rather Professor Gramm's firm stand to refuse to talk about it with his employers. As an employee of Wheaton College, a conservative Christian school, Gramm signed a contract which includes statements that while divorce is allowed, the reasons are to be reviewed by school officials on a case-by-case basis. I understand the concern of Wheaton in wanting to foster an environment of not only education, but sound faith and principles. I stand by their policy as they see necessary to protect the students and expect their employees to be role models. Gramm knew the requirements when he accepted employment 20 years ago, and he was aware of the consequences. Still, he has chosen to resign from his position rather than discuss the intimate details of his marriage and its failure with his bosses. Have you watched the news in the last year? You can't sit through a segment without hearing a story of some very public dirty-laundry-airing couple battling it out in front of the cameras. We've watched Paul McCartney fight it out with his wife; Bobby Brown has a new book about his divorce from Whitney Houston; Dr. Juanita Bynum and Bishop Weeks have been followed by the Christian and secular communities; now we have the YouTube divorce lady who decided to videotape her demand for divorce and air it to the world over the Internet. Guess what, world? It's none of your business! And for those who are deliberately using the media to publicize their failed relationships -- shame on you! Whatever the reasons for Gramm's divorce, there are only three people who should be involved: Mr. Gramm, Mrs. Gramm, and God. Nobody else has any right to the details. What would be the point? To pass judgment? To gossip? To be able to look at this couple and say, "Now see, that's where they messed up. I would never do that!" Why do we need to know their reasons? We don't. So although I am saddened to hear of yet another marriage falling to the wayside, the Gramms have their reasons, they have thought about it, and they have reviewed the consequences. Mr. Gramm knows the ramifications of his decision, and he is accepting the responsibility and the outcome. He has chosen to answer only to God for his actions. Mr. Gramm, you have my sympathy, my support, and my respect. I only wish more people would look to you and see that sometimes keeping your mouth shut makes the loudest statement.
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Last Updated ( Saturday, 03 May 2008 18:19 )
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